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[foxxcub]

Ugh, I need to whine/emote/something, because...UGH.

It looks like I won't be getting art for my holmes_big_bang because my artist flaked out and didn't bother to tell anyone that she was going on vacation for four weeks A WEEK BEFORE THE ART DEADLINE. The only way I know this is because I sent her an email asking if she had any questions about my story, and when I didn't get response I checked her LJ and saw that her last post was all "Yay, leaving for four weeks tomorrow!" And that was on June 18th. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK. I emailed the mod, who hadn't heard anything from this chick either, but she said she'd try to find a pinch-hitter. But at this point, with posting starting in a few days, I think I'm pretty well fucked.

God, I am SO FUCKING UPSET ABOUT THIS. I have been working so hard on this damn story, and have been looking forward to the art like you wouldn't believe. That's a big part of the whole reason I'm working my ass off to finish in time; there are so many talented artists in this fandom, and it's a privilege to have them illustrate for you. And now, through no fault of my own, I'm getting nothing. I feel so stupid that I'm crying over this, but goddamn it. I deserved at LEAST an email letting me know she was douching out on me. Gah, I could punch something right now.

EDIT: The artist just emailed me to say she's got finished art. ASFK;SDGFD >:(

And this is on top of the huge fight I had last night over aspects of my grieving being "annoying". Yeah. The last twenty-four hours have been awesome.

Comments

[fitofpique.livejournal.com]

I am so pissed on your behalf, bb. If you aren't going to follow through on something like this because something unforeseen has come up, okay, BUT AT LEAST LET PEOPLE KNOW SO THEY CAN MAKE OTHER ARRANGEMENTS.

*cuddles*

I don't even know what to say about your grieving being annoying. That's entirely unfair.

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

I'm so overly-emotional about this right now, I don't even want to finish. :(

[harriet-vane.livejournal.com]

That sucks so much! You deserve amazing art. :(

idek what to say about the grieving comment. That's just way over the line. *hugs*

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

You know, I felt a little bad for judging the girl when I found out she was still in high school, but at the time I reminded myself that high school kids do awesome stuff in fandom all the time. But it seems like my initial instincts were right. >:(

Ugh, I am still waiting for an apology from the person who shares my house. I haven't gotten one yet.

[beingothrwrldly.livejournal.com]

Ugh, bb, that SUCKS. >>>:( to that person on your behalf.

As for the "annoying" comment - don't let anyone tell you that you're grieving in a bad way or a wrong way or an "annoying" way (seriously, wtf). Everyone deals with loss differently, and if your grieving is helping you to cope with your loss, then that's what's important. I really hope you're doing okay, I've been thinking of you the last few days. ♥

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

&you;

Thank you, hon. ♥

[singingrl.livejournal.com]

Is there a *proper* way to grieve now? Ugh, I feel for you. I hope you get an apology soon, that sucks. Also, *hugs* things will get easier soon.

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

I need to keep telling myself that I'm not being irrational or whatever, that I have every right to feel that, yes, I AM really young to have lost a parent and that there's no age limit to when you STOP feeling that way.

[ria-oaks.livejournal.com]

*delurks* Hi - I've been lurking on your journal for several years now (first found you via Lost fandom, then Oz fandom, and kept you on my flist since then even though we're not really in the same fandoms anymore). Anyway, that really sucks that she did that to you - it's not fair of her at all. I'm really looking forward to your story (I remember seeing you initially posting about it and thinking that it sounded cool!) and I was thinking that, if it's okay with the mods, maybe I could pinch hit for you? I draw fanart and have done art for a few big bangs, and I hate the thought of anyone going without art. :( I prob can't get anything too extensive done quickly, but I can try to get a sketch done and then finish it later. I can prob get something done by some point at least, even if it's not in time for the posting date. :) you can see some of my work in my drawings tag and my LJ scrapbook. I wouldn't mind the chance to draw some Sherlock Holmes, anyway. :)

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

Oh my gosh, I don't even know what to say! That's so, so kind of you! My posting date is July 9th, and can you view Google docs? If you'll give me your email address, I can add you to the doc.

Seriously, I feel like I should send you a plate of brownies or something! <333333

[yetunknown.livejournal.com]

aspects of my grieving being "annoying"
what the actual - I will go out there and CUT A BITCH.

(*HUGS*)

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

<3333333333

[viggofest.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry I missed the passing of your father. I am entering my 8th month of mourning mine and I wish I could promise it would get easier, but I can't see that from here yet, so it would be misleading of me to say to you what others have told me. (Unfortunately I do not have any work to throw myself into, like my siblings did, so I've had way too much time to lay around and feel sad.)
Others have already told you what you know to be true: your grief is your own and private and there is no wrong way (I mean, where can you even *find* a belltower these days? And the price of ammo...!)
I'm not quite sure if this other insensitive person is your husband or a friend or what, but I suggest you put them in their place by saying, "As much as I hate you at this very moment for hurting me like that, I still wouldn't wish this grief on you." I've found that to be a very effective stop.
Re: sherlock bb--I didn't even know this was around, as I've been off LJ for, well, 8 months, so I would be terribly upset if we were to miss your work because of someone else's carelessness.
High school. Eh. Look at it this way--pretty soon she'll graduate and either get a job or go to college. The four-week vacation will be a thing of the past.
Long distance hugs!

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

It was a careless comment, but I just got a much-needed apology, so I'm feeling a little better about. It did come from my husband, but I think I know why--his cousin committed suicide seven years ago, and it was very traumatic, and I think he has it in his head that I should be grieving the way HE grieved, and since I'm not, he doesn't know what to do with that. I'm not condoning his actions, not at all, but I think I understand them. It still hurts, though. I'm sorry you know what I'm going through. You're right, I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

[claudia-bitu.livejournal.com]

Oh that's horrible! I am so sorry. I want to say plenty of not-nice things about the artist, but mainly, I just think it was disrespectful that they didn't even let you know that they were taking off for four weeks. They could have said something and they chose not to, and now you're the one suffering for it. Guh, that's horrible. *hugs*

Also, I'm rather cross with whomever told you that parts of your grieving were annoying. *hugs again*

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

Even worse? I emailed her at the beginning of June to say that I was still working on my story, and she emailed back to say okay and DIDN'T SAY A WORD ABOUT HER VACATION. *seethes*

It's all right, I got an apology. I'm not completely over it, of course, but I'm a little better. ♥

[mahoni.livejournal.com]

Oh dude, that sucks about the douchey artist. D: I hope you get something worked out, that would be awful to have the BB experience ruined because of that. And being told grief is annoying: yeah, ranty post TOTALLY JUSTIFIABLE.

I hope your weekend improves. *hugs*

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

*points to above thread*

Someone offered to pinch-hit for me! \\o// I am trying very hard not to be irritated with the mod, because she's running this thing for the first time and doesn't know a lot about big bang challenges...but she REALLY needs to keep track of the artists. That's something we BBB mods learned IMMEDIATELY the first year we held it.

The boy came and apologized, so things are better. *hugs back*

[sinuous-curve.livejournal.com]

Ugh, I hate when people do that. There's no shame in realizing you're not going to have the time to finish, but it's unfair as fuck to other people when you don't bow out in plenty of time. Especially for this challenge, considering so many artists didn't end up with stories and were severely bummed about it. :(

But yay for pinch hitters.

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

Yeah, it's kind of ironic how so many artists ended up without stories, and yet I actually am trying to finish and my artist fucks me over.

[elucreh.livejournal.com]

*HUGS*

I'm so sorry for people sucking at you, luv.

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

*hugs back*

Things are looking up a little, at least. ♥

[musical-emjay.livejournal.com]

aspects of my grieving being "annoying"

WHAT. Who the FUCK said THAT? I can't even believe someone would actually...WOW.

And UUUUUGH THAT ARTIST IS SUCH A TWATWAFFLE. You have every right to be upset. I'm so sorry, babe :((( *hug*

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

I've gotten an apology since this post, so I'm better now. <3333

And lol, ~twatwaffle. But luckily, someone offered to do last-minute art for me!

[sunsetmog.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry, bb. <33333 I seriously think there should be a special hell for people who drop out without telling people they're doing so. They cause so much hassle. :(

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

I just sent the mod an email with a gentle suggestion to, you know, HAVE THE ARTISTS CHECK IN WITH HER.

[isis2015.livejournal.com]

Oh, honey, you have every right to be upset. It is incredibly rude for someone to sign up to do art and then just fuck off like that. It's not fair to you, and I'm incredibly sorry it happened. :(

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

A part of me wants to send this chick a really hateful email, but she probably wouldn't read it for a few more weeks, anyway. >:|

[thismuchmore.livejournal.com]

There's no right or wrong way to grieve, WTF. Everyone grieves in the way that's best for them, or in the way that they decide to deal with it. (When my grandma died when I was eleven, my mom criticized me for not crying at the service. So. I kind of empathize.)

I'd punch that artist for you. That sucks. If I were any good at art, I'd make you something.

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

Oh, hon. *hugs* I always try desperately not to cry at services, because I hate people watching me cry. My dad's was the worst.

&you;

[arsenicjade.livejournal.com]

Oh honey. I hate to say this, almost, but it's not stupid. The number of fic exchanges I've cried over for one reason or another is truly heinous--it's just a thing. We work hard, and we want something for that. That's natural. I'm so sorry.

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

*HUGS*

I mean, I feel slightly entitled? But at the same time, I have a RIGHT to feel entitled. :/

[mrsquizzical.livejournal.com]

i was glad to read that words had been exchanged to help rectify some of the hurt from the 'annoying' dig.

*hugs*

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

Yeah, me, too. ♥

[insunshine.livejournal.com]

That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard, re: your grieving being annoying.

Grieving is grieving. Your grief is your own to deal with and fuck anybody who says otherwise.

[ariadne83]

aspects of my grieving being "annoying"

Oh that is just... ugh! I know you've gotten your apology but seriously, that is just wrong. My husband's mother died five months ago and I could never imagine saying anything like that to him

*big hugs*

[turps33.livejournal.com]

I'm glad that you got an apology, and that someone has stepped in to provide art.

I have a lot of ill-feelings for your artist right now. If they couldn't complete their art they shouldn't have signed in the first place.

[makealimb.livejournal.com]

gahhh that sucks so much, i'm sorry darling. i hope an artist can step in and make some arts for you. ♥

[makealimb.livejournal.com]

Also, there is no right or wrong way to grieve. :/ This was your PARENT, someone who had a huge impact in your life, you should be able to grieve as you wish. I'm sorry you had to deal with a comment like that.

*hugs you tight*

[akin16sk.livejournal.com]

I am glad that your artist worked out fine and as for the grieving thing.

I noticed that our society in general is not accustomed to grieving. I lost my guinea pig last year, I am aware of the fact that our losses cannot be compared by any measure, but when I was grieving I realized that my friends and even people I thought understood me were really confused how to react, despite the fact that I didn't expect anything from them. Just grieve as much as you need, it will get better, don't try to hide it from friends, that won't work, but it will get very slowly better. Good luck with grieving, it is a successful way to healing.