tl;dr

[foxxcub]

I wonder when my life became such that the highlight of my weekend is going to Starbucks by myself in my pjs and then driving around with Daft Punk cranking through my car stereo. It doesn't sound all that bad, but then I think about the days when I had weekly bowling dates with friends and Taco Tuesdays and Saturday breakfasts and nights out at stupid clubs with really cheap beer. I have none of that now; my friends live too far away or are dealing with job loses/no money and can't make the drive out to see me. I'm not all that close to the people I work with, and while I guess that could technically be my fault in the end, the ones I could see myself hanging out with are either parents with new babies (i.e. no time) or have way too much going on outside of work. I feel like the friends who moved out of state are starting to forget about me in the process of putting down new roots with new friends, friends who are actually close to be able to do little things like go out to dinner on a week day night.

The thing is, there are people on my flist who have it so much worse than I do. I know this. I know I'm employed with a decent job and have a husband with a really good job, and have a new house and car. But I also know that these people still have friends close by who care enough to call and email them, to do things with them on a moment's notice. I haven't actually been out with friends (RL, at least) since probably October. Maybe now's the time I should violate all my standards and get a damn MySpace; at least then I could actually feel like someone cared enough to friend me there.

Please don't take this post as me soliciting hugs or sympathy, I just really wanted to get this off my chest.

Comments

[wordsalone.livejournal.com]

I'm going to give you hugs anyway because I kind of adore you and I had a good night and I wish that you had been here to experience it and one day, you will hang out with us and it'll be awesome and at some point, this sentence will end but not right this second because...

*HUGS*

And now I'm done.

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

♥♥

[wordsalone.livejournal.com]

No seriously. There were so many margaritas and there would be more with you here and it would be the shizznit.

[ignipes.livejournal.com]

Yeah. I know how you feel. ♥

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

*clings*

OT, but I totally heard Muse's "Starlight" and it made me think of Parallax, which made me smile. ♥

[ignipes.livejournal.com]

I'm glad it could make you smile. (The highlight of my day was going to Starbucks too. *g*)

[munkykiss.livejournal.com]

One day, you have to come and have $3 margaritas with us....it would be amazing to have you there :)

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

I hope I can come, too. <33

[harriet-vane.livejournal.com]

I LOVE YOU SO MUCH. <333

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

<333333333333333333333

[mrsquizzical.livejournal.com]

i'm not trying to just jump on the "*hugs*" thing, but i really do get what you mean. i've felt like that in my real life a lot.

um... *hugs*?

[foxxcub.livejournal.com]

Thank you, bb, I still appreciate the hugs. :)

[saekokato.livejournal.com]

You may not be soliciting for hugs, but, darling, you're going to get them. *shakes fist*

*giggles* Sorry. WAY too much Brian fic today. Anyway.

*HUGS* *HUGS* *HUGS*

[trippypeas.livejournal.com]

Honey I know what its like to be super busy and out of the loop and then not busy at all and still out of the loop..

That's why I'm taking advantage of being jobless and am going to spend a week at my friends apartment out of town..Drunken pancake parties and bonding!

I would friend you in real life

[bunniewabbit.livejournal.com]

I sometimes wish that my entire flist, or even a portion of it, lived within driving distance just so I could have some people to hang with who get me. I haven't had that in longer than I can remember. So, yeah, I hear you.

[tigs.livejournal.com]

You know, I'm totally going to jump in on the hugs, too. So, *hugs*.

I've definitely been to that place--and still feel like I'm there sometimes, what with the new babies and other life changing events in my friends lives--and it's so hard. I wish that there was something I could do to help.

(Dear Midwest, why must the drives everywhere be so long?)

*hugs*

[adorkable37.livejournal.com]

Whatever I'm still hugging you. *HUGS* I'm also going to ask for you email address because I want to poke you there if that's okay.

Also if we lived in the same city I'd bug the shit outta you all the time. *nod* You'd have to shove me out the door *headdesk* But okay yeah... *HUGSHUGSHUGS*

[thepouncer.livejournal.com]

Not quite October, but I can go weeks where I go to work, come home, and never see anybody beside my family and colleagues. I try really hard not to have that happen, but ugh. Why do people have to move away? Or get busy with other stuff? And why do I have to get sick and exhausted and able to do nothing but hibernate?

[slowlikewine.livejournal.com]

Oh my God, I swear this post could have been written by me. My friends don't live anywhere close to me either (not even remotely). And everyone's getting married and having babies and sometimes I feel like there's this huge divide between me and the rest of them. It gets very lonely sometimes.

And you're right, it's not about symphathy, but it does feel good to be able to tell someone.

[holycloud.livejournal.com]

Hum, know the feeling like.. too much. I'm not particulary outgoing, but the friends I used to have.. I had lost them with the passing of time. Friends who moved away, who have babies now or that simply stepped away.

I have better friends in Internet than in real life..

But I'd never get a MySpace. The Facebook is already enough for me...

[babygotbass.livejournal.com]

I have lost a really good group of friends twice - after college, and after grad school. Then I spent 3 years practically friendless with zero social life. It was really hard for me. Once you are out of your twenties, it is hard to make friends. I still don't know where...if I didn't have a couple of friends at work, I would still have nothing to do.

But! Let me remind you that I will be around for most of the summer \o/
We can totally have regular bowling dates, and QaF nights, and drink nights. Just make a list.

[annon-of-rhi.livejournal.com]

I wish I had a Starbucks in my town.

[annon-of-rhi.livejournal.com]

Crap, I totally meant to write more than that! But I switched tabs and got confused, and then forgot what your entry was about... Um.

A lot of my friends have left town to go to uni, or we've just grown apart since high school. It kind of sucks, but I guess that's a part of life sometimes? For the record though, I would friend you on MySpace in a heartbeat. :D

[adellyna.livejournal.com]

You get hugs anyway! I've been there before, and it's miserable and sucks. ://///

[halfdutch.livejournal.com]

Sorry, hon. I know exactly how you feel. :-/ Sometimes I wonder if being online so much makes things better or worse. I think a little of both.

I'm just an email away, y'know.

[danacias.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[thismuchmore.livejournal.com]

That's exactly how I felt for most of last year. :/ Right now if I didn't have my friends from work I'd have no one around to do things with. The friends I had from high school, who I thought were some of my best friends, kept in touch throughout college -- for the most part -- and then a few months after college graduation they disappeared from my life, stopped answering my calls, texts, and e-mails, and I have no idea why.

It's hard to make friends. Sigh. And I'm not exactly one for going out; I'm much more into hanging out at home or just going out for dinner, so that makes it harder. This is my long-winded way of saying that I kind of know where you're coming from, and if I lived anywhere near you, I would want to hang out with you all the time.

[boobookittifukk.livejournal.com]

First thing's first, any moment in the week when Daft Punk is playing should be a highlight. Just saying.

And hey, I totally get what you mean. Until I got back in touch with my now best friend after no contact with her for a couple of years (she had personal issues she was going through that no one outside of her immediate family knew about), I was just like you. I had no close friends at all. No one I could be silly with or just call up at a moment's notice to hang out. Hell, I can't even do the latter with my bestie because we're both so busy. But we keep in touch through LJ, emails and texts despite living ten minutes drive from each other, so it's all good.

However, my point is that maybe you just haven't found the right person/people to be that close friend/s? It might even really surprise you who that will turn out to be, because in terms of preferences in just about everything except music (the debates on Meyer's writing ability, or in my opinion, lack thereof, have had to stop because it gets kind of heated), my bestie and I are absolute polar opposites, so it really surprises people sometimes that we're such close friends who just get the other and can actually agree on things. Just keep an open mind and heart, and maybe make an effort to go out and socialise with both your work colleagues and perhaps the circle of friends you share with your husband. There might be someone tha you have met before already and just suddenly connect with, or you might meet someone completely new through an acquaintance with whom you just get along straight away and feel like you've known them forever. I've known my bestie since I was 14 and while she and I have always been good friends, we didn't become best friends until about three or four years ago.

Keep trying. You'll find someone or someones that you can have that close bond with. =)